Friday 28 November 2008

Nag ...

Why do women nag? To be specific, why do mothers and wives nag? The know-it-all says women nag for they need love and attention. Really? Aren't there other better ways to seek love and attention other than nagging?

Do I nag? Yes when I have to but it doesn't give me much pleasure at all. Que sera sera, I'd rather remain cool and collected 24/7. It's quite tiring actually when you have to remind people time and again to do this and that. It is even more frustrating when you have to be the one who eventually did those as a result of them not doing it at all in the first place or when they did some things half-way through.

As far as the man of the house is concerned, I seldom nag him but he doesn't like to be around when I nag the children (for sure takut tempias kat dia kot? haha). When a wife (in general) talks more than her husband, can it not be classified as nagging or membebel? Can it be understood as a show of love, a concern, a discussion or a muzakarah for that matter?

Just yesterday I sent a text to moth when he was at work. I mentioned 3 things that he needs to be doing top priority but never really focus his time to be doing it. To start with the text I wrote 'Benarkan I sentuh 3 hal. Meh sama2... (the 3 points)' and ends it with 'Maaf jika tersilap beri idea. Salam'. That doesn't sound like nagging, does it? To date, I am yet to receive any response.

If only I could putar the time anti-clockwise ... would things be different and much better? Perhaps!

Last but not least do men nag? Yup at least Bak did or so I thought then, but where Bak is concerned the nagging was actually his words of wisdom. I can vouch for that and I can't thank him enough.

LEMIN>>

Wednesday 26 November 2008

Hulk ..

This week budi pekerti kita kurang memuaskan. Diantara sebab2nya ..

Anak jiran dengan 2 sepupu sepapatnya main2 bola dlm kawasan rumah depa, so no hal of mine. W'pun bertiga aje yg bermain tu, namun keriuhannya macam nak bunuh sekor ular tedung. Ular vs dot3. Siapa dulu patut kita hapuskan? Hehehe, ya betoll! Awak yg sebut, kita tak sebut apa2 pun..

Sebelum ni dah banyak kali juga kereta harapan kita dilanda pantulan bola. Olehkerana bola tersebut jenis innocent, bukan kaler oren ala bola NBA basketball (ya ke kaler oren?), kita biarkan aje.. dan bila bola terbabas, diorang pandai2 sendiri bukak gate atau 'boloskan diri' menerusi pagar keluar masuk sesuka hati kat kawasan rumah kita ambik bola tu. Fine, kita kasi chan jer sebab diorang underaged. Konon nak jadi jiran yg memahami dan bertolak ansor.. afterall dgn budak2, toksah berkira sangat.

Bila mood kita ceria, selamatlah budak2 tu, tapi khaan ... langit tidak selalu cerah.

Alkisah.. sedang kita memasak, kedengaran suara orang bercakap2 kat luar yg sangat hampir pada ruang tamu. Mula2 panik gak almaklum takkan ada orang yg boleh masuk jika gate karat tu tak dibukak oleh tuan rumah (hanya tuan rumah aje yg tau nak handle gate karat tu.. ). Maka dgn sudip ditangan kita menegur dengan suara keras "siapa tu?? nak apa"? Dia jawab "nak ambik bola, aunty". Eii, boleh aje kata gitu dah masuk rumah orang tanpa kebenaran? Tak cakap sori, tak cakap timakasih.

Anak jiran baru darjah 6 manakala 2 lagi kupu2 tu dah cam bapak orang w'pun dapat agak diorang tu masih dalam tingkatan 3 (kot?). Anak jiran tak akan buat gitu sebab kita sort of kenal dia, lagi pun mak ayahnya jenis civilised, hormat jiran dan berhemah.

So, I'm torn .. whether or not to tell the boy that he needs to polish his manners...

Lepas masak kita sengaja ke luar rumah, konon2 nak fill-up air minuman kucing2 tapi sebenarnya mengharap sangat2 bola tu terpantul sekali lagi masuk ke kawasan rumah. Alhamdulillah, doaku dimakbulkan ... maka ... ciksom pun bertukar menjadi hulk tanpa bajunya kelihatan rabak2 .. hahaha...

Dak tu: Aunty, nak ambik bola (tunjuk muka seposen)
Hulk: Yes??? (buat2 tak paham)
Dak tu: nak ambik bola.. (tunjuk muka doposen)
Hulk: Were u the one who entered my house? (hulk mestilah cakap omputih khaan?)
Dak tu: (anggok2)
Hulk: Were u the one who climb up the fence? (serious gituuu walhal dlm ati kahkahkah)
Dak tu: (anggok lagi)
Hulk: Next time please ask permission before u enter my house. Did you ask permission just now?
Dak tu: (geleng kepala muka dah pucat)
Hulk: Ahhh, what did you say just now?
Dak tu: Bola ..
Hulk: OK, u can take the ball now. U can climb up the fence ...

Actually Hulk tak tau budak tu panjat pagar atau 'boloskan diri' menerusi pagar sebab Hulk dah masuk ke dalam rumah. Pagar jiran ni spesel sket dimana budak2 kecik dan yg kurus kering boleh selitkan badan masuk menerusi pagar (jenis kap-lam-ya-nga ni lain mcm sket). Rasanya budak2 tu faham bahasa, diorang tak sambong main bola dan terus masuk ke rumah.

Petang tu bila kekedai, kita lalu kat kawasan padang futsal belakang rumah, kelihatan ramai budak2 bersukaria main bola segala ... Hulk slowkan kereta .. maka terpandang budak2 bertiga tu penuh aksi ..

Apa pun, kemarahan Hulk tadi tak kemana .. macam marah anak sendiri juga .. (tapi khaan, if we were to compare Hulk and ciksom, sah ciksom tu lebih baik. Dia memang tak sker maragh2 phon.. haha, iyolah tuu..)

Tuesday 25 November 2008

Selamat pengantin baru ...

Selamat pengantin baru pada CeriaWan dan Fifyz (taulah kita sekarang why that small 'z' menyelit sebelah 'y', hehe).

Apa patut dinasihatkan pada orang yg baru menempuh alam baru? Hehe, kalau nak tau kenalah tanya pengantin yg tak berapa baru tu .. yg duk kat Bkt Naga tu, auwww.. (malas nak citer).

Anyway, dah dibawa kepengetahuan pengantin bahawasanya kita tak dapat hadir. Memula dulu memanglah nak hadirkan diri, maklum anak angkat kita kawin, khaan? Tapi gitulah, kita merancang, Allah yg menentukan ........ DAN ..... memang Allah sayang kat kita tau .. Ditakdirkan kita merajuk dgn u-know-who kerana 2 sebab, juga kebetulan pulak kakak buat doa selamat untuk bujangnya yg nak ke Mekah, maka niat asal yg suci tu tak menjadi kenyataan. Instead of makan nasi beriani pengantin, kita makan nasi tomato di Bkt T.

If I were to follow Mas & Dayah to Kuala Pilah.... Aduh! I kenot emajin. I will surely mabuk darat, picit2 badan sendiri mcm nak giler biar sedawa berderap berderup untuk lepaskan angin yg terkumpul dalam badan just to suppress rasa nak muntah.

Dua beradik tu bertolak dari rumah kul 1130 pagi dan kul 8.30 malam baru tiba rumah TANPA bertemu dgn pengantins, tanpa dapat makan jamuan pengantin dan tanpa dapat bersenggol2an dgn kenalan lain. 9 jam tu beb.. naik plane dah sampai ke Mekah pun.

Soalan cepumas: Mana silapnya? Peta ke rumah pengantin dicetak tak berapa tepat atau sememangnya ada orang tak cekap membaca peta? Huhuhu .. masing2 pikirlah sendiri..

Thursday 20 November 2008

Am I torn in two?

You're torn in two ...
Your mouth is insisting that you let that verbal venom fly ..
Your innate sense of discretion is begging on bended knee, that you think about the consequences ..
Fortunately, there's a happy medium ..
Unfortunately, you won't find it today ..
Wait until tomorrow to speak ...


Oh well ... this is IT.

It's all about open and free communication, today. You've got to say what you feel as soon as you feel it! It's time to liberate your mind and free yourself to say whatever comes to mind at the moment it pops up in your brain.

You're open to the fact that once or twice you might say something silly. You might stick your foot in your mouth, but so what? That's a small price to pay for feeling free and open with the people you'll be dealing with, today.

Embarrassment can bring people closer.

Tuesday 18 November 2008

1st day ...

Yesterday was D's 1st day experiencing working life .. (hehe dia buat praktikal aje tu..).

Day before yesterday, I merajuk with D because of something so I really really merajuk and I have to pamerkan that I meant it.... (dalam hati Allah aje yg tau .. hati seluruh emak2 sedunia memang lembut cam cotton candy, taufufaa dan jelly but never2 like kerak nasi yg lembut pabila kena air, ok?) .

At 9am sent T back to SA. While waiting for T to unload her things, I sms ayahanda budak2 yg sedang tekun bekerja kat ofis to PLEASE call D at home and ask him to bersiap sedia jangan lambat ke ofis and also to tell D to take a cab there as "lepas antar T I nak gi jenjalan ...".

Jenjalan I did .. alaah pi Giant aje membeli barang2 ransom (bukan film Ransom tu tau). Among other things I bought 2 lai spaghetti straps t-shirt... haha .. (mesti ada orang yg berimaginasi songsang tu.. Wa tau siapa).., namun those are not for me lahh .. Nak bagi kat somebody biarkan 'hidup barunya bahagia sepanjang masa'.

Ishh..off track dah ni ...

Bila balik dari jenjalan tu, mata ni terpandang atas meja, dalam sink dan satu dua tempat lain yg selalunya tak organise akibat perbuatan D, kelihatan tersangatlah sejuk mata memandang. Atas meja takde empty mug, dalam sink takde benda yg tak berbasuh, botol air already refilled ... wah3, tersangat bagus budak ni .. terasa sejuk perut ni ... (yalah kita haus, baru jer minum chilled Ribena..). Selalunya D akan basuh pinggan/mug aje tapi never nak basuh sudu garpu as tho those two things berat cam dumb bell pulak (walhal dumb bell tu dia hayun cam takde apa aje). Ni semua case malazzzzzzzzzzz ... Tapi semalam dia terajin pulak. Haa, pandai pun nak jaga and ambik hati kita ... (in a way, hati kita terus sejuk dan segala kesalahannya telah diampunkan semalam lagi..).

Muka dia tak malu tau .. belum lagi dia tau hati kita dah lembut .. Petang semalam dia call kita "Mi..boleh ambik tak?" .. To cut the long story short, both of us picked him up from his so-called office (just a distant away if by car but if jalan kaki, 'kes lebam', as D puts it ..).

Alkisah ... D works with celebrities ... Hmmm.... (ada chan lah Umi buat album eh?? Nyanyi untuk jingles pun ok gak.. hahahahaaaaa... Oh bangau, oh bangau kenapa kaki kau panjang???)

Saturday 15 November 2008

Trust...

Seminggu dua ni sebok dgn cerita A & NH aje, maklumlah selebriti..

Oleh yang demikian, terpanggil nak buat kajian menerusi SMS tentang pendapat 5 kawan2 rapat mengenai trust pada suami masing2...dan sudah tentu 1 pendapat tu dari yours truly ..

Soalan: Do you trust your husband?

1st: Yes, I trust my husband.
2nd: Wah! Soalan cepumas ni. I tak trust 100%. I selalu buat spot check tau.
3rd: Payah nak jwb. Ekcheli depends dlm hal ape laa.. tapi overall yes dan ada sulam2 ngan berwaspada sket sebanyak.
4th: Yes I trust him. Why? Terlampau trust sampai kena tipu.
5th: At the moment I trust him cos he has no money. But if he is rich n famous then I don't trust him at all.
6th: I trust him but with a few grams of reservations, merely xnak terperanjat aje. So far, alhamdulillah. Anyway, TRUST is a big word kan?

Since trust is a big word, I shall leave it as it is laah ..

Tapi kan .. cuba kita perhatikan jawapan2 telus tu. Boleh tak kita buat andaian siapa diorang tu dan mengapa such statement dibuat? Ha'ah, letih juga nak buat andaian sendiri tanpa ketahui umur, usia perkahwinan, latar belakang serta pengalaman hidup diorang tu ...

Sebenarnya kajian tersebut untuk kepuasan hati kita sorang, saja nak menilai taraf pemikiran dan pendapat 'orang lama' vs 'orang baru' .. tapi siapa orang lama dan orang baru tu ekk??

Haa, siapa tepat meneka dapat hadiah dari kita tau ..

Wednesday 12 November 2008

New house?

Insyaallah dengan izinNya, terjadilah ... tapi kalau dinanti2kan saat dan waktunya, mesti terasa lamaaaaaaaaa... tapi kalau tak difikirkan sangat, buat2 tak reti atau sebokkan diri dengan segala hal yang mendatangkan faedah maka saat tu akan cepat menjelma.

Perbincangan dua hala (between TB n nephew in-law) berkenaan melakar pelan rumah baru dah dibuat sebulan dulu dan kini blueprintnya dah pun siap dilakar dengan penggunaan perisian komputer yang canggih . Untung juga ada dikalangan keluarga yang mahir dalam bidang melukis/melakar pelan rumah.

Angan2 kian menjadi kenyataan, insyaallah. TB mungkin gembira ria sebab angan2nya dah mula berputik but what about me? Am I happy? The answers are 50-50, 30-70 & 70-30.

Masa muda2 dulu bila TB menyatakan hasrat nak buat rumah kat kampong halamannya, wajah kita macam setuju aje tapi mulut pulak berkata "alaaa, tak naklaaaa. Adik-beradik I semuanya kat sini.., lagi pun kat sana takde bank, atm, supermarket..." (ini bukan statement mengada2 tapi berdasarkan keperluan hidup pada masa tu).

...tapi sekarang keadaan kampong halamannya dah WORLD, dah ada macam2. Pendek kata apa KL ada, kat situ pun ada. Kawasan perumahan baru tumbuh cam cendawan selepas hujan.

Betapa manusia berubah .. dan tak banyak sikit, diri nih pun turut berubah. I am not talking about my physique yang memang dah berubah but it's about my accepting the fact that I have to follow TB wherever he goes. Sekarang dah tak pikir lagi pasal bank, atm atau supermarket tapi pikir hal lain pulak. Hal lain termasuk takut dan seram, dunia misteri. Takut hantu (of coz) dan seram dengan persekitaran kawasan yg akan didirikan rumah.

If only I tak dengar cerita ceritot dari sepupu sepapat TB yang bercerita tentang pengalaman masing2. Menciiiii tau!! Sorang tu bercerita terdengar suara sekumpulan perempuan berbual mesra walhal tempat yg dimaksudkan ialah ladang persendirian aje. No way perempuan sesuka hati nak berkumpul kat tempat macam tu.

Sorang lagi kata mesin rumputnya terasa sangat berat bila dia mula menebas rumput dan lalang walhal selalunya mesin tu ringan aje. Jenis yang nak main2 dan acah2 ni lah yg kita tak berapa berkenan dan juga tak gembira nak dengar.

Nevertheless, excited tetap excited. Terkesima jugak nak beri cadangan kat TB "kalau rumah tu buat style Mediterranean, boleh tak?". Takkan tak boleh, sediakan ajelah duitnya <-- TB tak jawab macam tu tapi I sendiri yg jawab, hahaha.

Thursday 6 November 2008

Last kopek ...

The so-called last-kopek raya open house catered specially for my siblings lasted joyously with much aplomb. Alhamdulillah for many reasons: Dapat tebus malu, puas hati jamu diorang, jalin silaturrahim, berbual mesra dgn adik-beradik dan mee kari dimasak terlebih sedap dari masakan 2 kali sebelumnya.

Puji2an bergemuruh hinggap kat telinga (cam riak aje bunyiknya tapi sajalah kita tulis meriah2 cam ni sebab ni kan rumah sendiri, kaan??)

1/2zah sms:
Gua teringat lu punya mikari. Sedap. Lu mesti ajar gua buat tu n sambsot. Camne dpt sambsot tu lembut? Gua x pandai langsong. Mesti xlembut cam tu.. Sekian.

Jwpn ikhlas dan telus :-)
Kiahx3, U like my mikari n sambsot? Rasianya terletak pada 18 jenis herba (16 pun boleh), ahaks. MK n SS tu gua kuk ikut naluri, berbekalkan bismillah n selawat (masa tulis ni rasa tekak gua kembang kuncup aje, haha. Guwau2 eh KakZah ehh?)

3 kali masak mee kari menjamu tetamu sempena riraya. As practice makes perfect, kali ketiga barulah resultnya d'bomb kot?

Menu for that day from the gracious hosts: Mee kari, sambal sotong aka sambsot, murtabak ala Spore (beli) and the well-known lempeng pisang which is my specialty (ni pengakuan dari diorang). Other foods sponsored by siblings: Popia, baked macaroni, sago gula melaka and burger-del (Ngah made specially for MOTH. Tak chi tau, apsal dia plak yg dapat walhal dia buat kerja sikit aje? Ooops, takpe, sori terlupa pulak .. MOTH tolong lipat bebaju dan belanja murtabak, hehe 'isteri mudah lupa').

It was literally a one-woman show dari membeli bahan2, memotong, mengisar, menumis, merebus dan memerah santan (yaa perah sendiri - 3 biji pulak tu, saja tak beli santan pre-perah), juga basuh segala gelas dan pinggan mangkok sendiri .. (sengaja tak benarkan tetamu tolong basuh pinggan-mangkok bukan kerana takut pecah apa2, tapi .. hehe, adalah sebab2nya).

Pada orang yg terror memasak mesti beri komen yg tak membina "ahh, kacang aje tu". Memanglah baru buat mee kari untuk jamu 20 orang aje bukan masak untuk kenduri kawin, nonetheless I gave a good pat on my shoulder for the work well done! Syabas..

Mak used to say 'kita buat dia', and Bak always said 'kerja guna akal' (sambil pointing jari telunjuk ke dahi). Anak Mak & Bak pulak kata kerja kena profesional dan disiplin, jangan gopoh supaya tak hilang fokus (namun malam hari terpaksa cari orang picit pinggang dan betis, auwww).

Alhamdulillah semua berjalan lancar! Amin ... tahun depan nak masak apa ekk??

Ralat: Takde gambar sebagai hiasan sebab kamera HP buat perangaiii ..

Tahniah ..

Sahabat dari RESORT hendak mendirikan masjid ... auwwww ... hepinya mereka.

Tahniah untuk CW dan Cik Fify ... (terima kasih kerana mengundang, nak pergi sangat2 tapi masih tak boleh confirm), tahniah untuk Dr Ani Sue dan partner (di Temerloh .. aduh!!), dan juga tahniah untuk MyHana dan partner ... (belum dpt jemputan tapi tak dulik, nak ucap tahniah gak..).

Semoga bahagia bahagia bahagia dan bahagia selalu ....

'Bahagia' dari kacamata atau perspektif orang yg berpengalaman adalah seperti berikut ...

Alaaa.. tak cukup masa laa sebab I am in a hurry nak ke Mydyn nih.. Semalam CikSue kita ada sms suruh kesana sebab dia dan anjernya ada kat situ sempena Mydyn nak turunkan harga2 barang ...

Kalau ada kamera TV3 dan apa2 TV, nanti I sentilkan wajah I kat situ eh? eh?? Daa...

Tuesday 4 November 2008

Deepavali ...

27/10 - We were invited to a Deepavali dinner by the next door neighbour. They booked a cendol van from SS15 and a satay stall from-where-I-dont-know (of which its satay tasted much better than the renowned satay Kajang Hj S), while the rest of the food was cooked by the host herself assisted by two great bibiks. As the male host was a big boss of Malaysiaxxxx, I could see familiar faces of 'who's who' in the politics arena and some infamous bloggers.

The cendol van was parked just outside of my gate (good eh?). As it was quite dark and being a good jiran (huhu, pun intended), I had my front porch spotlights ON just to cater for the cendol man. Haa, barulah terang sket, if not kesian tau... dahlah tak nampak wajah pembuat cendol, lagi haru for the cendol enthusiasts as they would risk swallowing taik cicak or taik kumbang as they indulge in their bowl of cendol. Worse still, during preparation of the cendol, the cendol man himself is having an itchy nostril. Haa... sanggup?

Makan lebih kurang, say our thanks to the gracious hosts and we were done! Terlanjur rumah bersebelahan, dah siap makan (walau tak kenyang) nak tunggu apa lagi kan? Lagi pun it was too many people over too limited a space .. susahlah nak mingle2 dan senggol2an with other guests, ahaks (macamlah kenal dgn diorang pun??).


2/11 - Finally I got the chance to jamu all my siblings except dadadididudu ... Oh well..
No wonder I don't always jamu orang in big group as I know my kudrat aka tulang 4 kerats just couldn't take it BUT THIS TIME I AM GAME FOR IT afterall I NEED TO TEBUS MY MALU TO ALL MY SIBLINGS ESP MY SISTERS. They are the ones who always jamu and menjamu aje... Isn't tangan yang memberi lebih baik dari yang menerima? Har3 .. tau takpe!

To be continued ... (insyaallah
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